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1. Dear Care and Feeding,

I work from home. My kids are 8 and 12. When they were little, we hired a sitter to watch them on the random days off from school, but they don’t really need a sitter now.

For holidays when they are off and I’m working, my husband and I agreed to a set of rules for them: If the kids help with two small chores, read for 30 minutes, and play outside all before noon, then they can have screen time. The kids reluctantly agreed to this policy.

But they still demand my time. They will complete the list above, then ask to FaceTime with a grandparent (a clever loophole). They come into my office whining that they are bored. They are old enough to help themselves to snacks, but if I don’t supervise, they will eat everything before lunch. I make and serve lunch. Even after lunch, they play on their tablets and mindlessly snack. If they ate everything earlier, they come to my office whining for more snacks.

I feel like my husband is taking advantage of my work-from-home job. I feel like my work and time come second to his. I would like to have a full day off the weekend after one of the school holidays. A day when no one asks me for food or entertainment or a ride somewhere. A day when I’m not picking up after everyone. I don’t need a spa day; I need a day to myself. My husband says that’s not fair because his job doesn’t have working from home as an option, and I can’t just “quit parenting for a day.”

—Holidays Are Not Days Off

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2. Dear Care and Feeding,

When should I let my daughter learn lessons on her own? My daughter “Chloe” is 12 years old. She recently went with her two closest friends to the zoo. She really wanted to wear a summer dress and white sandals and tried to leave the house without wearing sunscreen.

I talked to Chloe and made her go wearing sunscreen, and also shoes that would be better for walking on the dirt paths at the zoo (I couldn’t change her mind about the dress, so I picked my battles). But I’m not sure I like doing that.

She’s 12 now, and none of the consequences would have been disastrous. The next time something like this comes up, should I just let her make her mistakes and experience the consequences?

—When to Intervene

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Dear Pay Dirt,

Our next-door neighbors were really welcoming when we first moved into our new home. Within weeks, though, they started complaining that our son was too loud and that he was “bothering” their dogs. He’s 5 years old and rambunctious, and he’s attracted to furry animals, which makes it really hard to keep him away from fun, furry floofs!

We tried talking it out with our neighbors, but they lodged a complaint with our HOA, presented us with a massive bill for repainting their fence after our son drew on it with chalk, and twice called the police because he was “trespassing” on their property (he entered their garden uninvited to play with their dogs).

We’re at our wits end. We are seriously considering selling up and moving, as we can’t reasonably expect a child to forever remain indoors. But it will result in a loss we cannot afford.

Is there any way to fix this situation? We feel like we’re being bullied out of our home, but our neighbors are operating well within the law and their rights.

—Homewrecker

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[ SECRET SUBMISSIONS POST #964 ]

The first secret from this batch will be posted on June 14th.

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Hi, and welcome to this week's installment of the Guardian novel readalong! ♡

Here are last week's chapters, and you can find all previous discussions in the schedule posts (part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4), or via the !readalong tag.

This week's chapters:

Chapter 9: In Kunlun's memories, the young King of the Gui gives Kunlun a gift, retrieves his soul fire from the Great Seal, and gets kissed twice. Kunlun tells him to keep the soul fire, gives him the power to rule over mountains and rivers, makes him half-divine, and sets him free from the Great Seal. The King of the Gui doesn't want to let Kunlun die, but his death is inevitable. Zhao Yunlan wakes up from the memories and meets Ghost Face, who makes him doubt what he's learned about Kunlun's past. Shen Wei shows up and stops Ghost Face from talking. Zhao Yunlan mysteriously disappears.

Chapter 10: Zhao Yunlan is transported to a white void where he meets Shennong and suspects him of tampering with the memories in the Great Divine Tree. Zhao Yunlan is sent back to the Mortal Realm, but he lands in the past, in 2002. He secretly follows his father/Shennong's Mortar to Antiques Street and to the Netherworld. His "father" meets the Soul-Executing Emissary and accuses him of not honoring his promise to stay away from Zhao Yunlan. They argue about the Great Seal and what Shen Wei plans to do if it collapses. After watching them, Zhao Yunlan is left with even more questions. He finds that his copy of Record of Ancient Secrets is blank, and decides to buy another copy in 2002 to see if it ends up at the SID in eleven years.

The corresponding chapters in the Chinese version on JJWXC/the fan translation are 87 and 88.

Excerpts:

( 1) The young King of the Gui's gives Kunlun a gift )

( 2) The two kisses )

( 3) Ghost Face airs his grievances and reveals too much )

( 4) Zhao Yunlan ends up in the past )

( 5) Shen Wei's ominous plans )

Questions:

What is your favorite soft (or angsty, or soft and angsty) Weilan moment in the primordial past? Do you sympathize with Ghost Face? How do you feel about the time travel storyline, and how does it compare to the drama version? Would you also immediately buy ice cream if you suddenly ended up in the past? Are you as confused as Zhao Yunlan about what is true and what isn't?

You can answer as many or as few questions as you like, or just comment without answering any of them at all! And if you see this post and you're not actually reading the novel: As always, I would love to know what you think about any of this with limited context. :D

And here is the new schedule, and that's where you can sign up to host a post!

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Fandom: Taskmaster (series 16)
Characters/Pairings: Sue Perkins/Susan Wokoma
Rating: Gen
Length: 00:02:06
Content Notes: no archive warnings apply, and there are no video-specific warnings.
Creator Links: thingswithwings on AO3
Themes: Female relationships, Friendship, Team, Humor

Summary: If you're lost, you can look, and you will find me.

Reccer's Notes: This is gorgeous and hilarious as the Sues stumble about carrying out the endless ridiculous tasks, laughing, triumphant, and always there for each other.

Fanwork Links: Team of Sue

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⌈ Secret Post #6727 ⌋

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Title: (Never Go) Home
Author:

kalira
Fandom: Burn Notice
Ship/Characters: Michael/Fiona/Sam
Rating/Category: T/Poly (OT3)
Prompt: Burn Notice, Michael/Sam/Fiona, ireland
Spoilers: general through S3 E09 (episode: Long Way Back)
Summary: Michael might find homesickness entirely alien - for that matter, Sam's not much better - but no matter what the problem, or the hurt, they've always got each others' backs - and maybe this problem of Fiona's is another they'll be able to handle together. One day.
Notes/Warnings: N/A
Wordcount: 1,111

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Hi!

I've been reading up on the historical Catholic school system in Quebec, and I've gathered that until 1960 there were commonly Catholic schools that were supported by public funds (officially ended in the 90's). I've been able to find the names of some of the girl's schools, but haven't been able to easily find the names of any of the mixed or boy's schools below the high school level.

Anyone know any specific schools that could have served a 10-year old, working class, Catholic boy in Montreal or Quebec City ~1940?

Thanks!

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Title: pieces that were picked up on the way
Author: bluerosekatie
Fandom: ENA - Joel G. (Web Series)
Pairing/Characters: ENA & White and Red ENA
Rating/Category: Gen
Prompt: ENA - Joel G, ENA & White and Red ENA, Generation Loss (the copy of a copy)
Spoilers: Ending spoilers for chapter 1 of ENA: Dream BBQ
Summary: ENA tries to escape a dangerous situation — but leaves a remnant of herself behind.
Notes/Warnings: Some body horror and canon-typical weirdness. Fic locked to archive users only to avoid AI scraping.

Read it here on Ao3!

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Twists and revelations!

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Drunk angry guy making a fist in Dixing bar.

Shen Wei looking serious in response to drunk angry guy.

Poll #33203 Shen Wei's composure

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 15

View Respondents

When the drunk guy in the Dixing bar says, “[Zhao Yunlan] is dead! He has been killed by my huge fist," why doesn't Shen Wei react?

View Answers

Shen Wei has a lie detector power
6 (42.9%)

no one else is acting as if a murder's taken place
7 (50.0%)

Shen Wei would be able to sense if Zhao Yunlan were dead
8 (57.1%)

Shen Wei would be able to bring Zhao Yunlan back from the dead
2 (14.3%)

drunk guy is infamous in Dixing for boasting about killing people for real or imagined offences, every other day
5 (35.7%)

other (please specify in comments)
1 (7.1%)

The real purpose of Shen Wei's sleeve garters is

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they keep his shirt cuffs safely clear of the inkstone when he's writing
5 (35.7%)

they're purely a fashion statement
7 (50.0%)

when he’s in Envoy mode, he wears them as hair ties, and he just keeps them around his biceps the rest of the time so he won’t lose them
3 (21.4%)

they restrain his tentacles and/or other alien appendages
2 (14.3%)

other (please specify in comments)
2 (14.3%)

Thanks to

trobadora for help with the poll options in question 1.

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1. Dear Annie: I'm a brokenhearted Nana who could really use your advice.

I have a 10-month-old grandson whom I adore, but I'm not allowed to kiss him -- not even on the back of his head. Recently, in a moment of pure affection, I forgot and gently kissed the back of his head. It was instinctual. I love him so much, it just happened.

The reaction was swift and harsh. I was scolded and now I'm not allowed to hold him unless he's sitting on my lap, facing away from me. To make matters worse, I'm only allowed to see him every other weekend for two hours, and someone has to be in the room to supervise me the entire time.

I've tried to talk to my son about it, but any attempt leads to an argument or a shutdown. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells just to be near my grandson, and my heart is breaking.

Is there anything I can do in this situation? I feel so lost. -- Heartbroken Nana

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2. Dear Annie: I've been dating a wonderful man for five years, and for the most part, our relationship is strong and loving. We don't live together, so we typically see each other just a couple of times a week, with more time together when we go on vacation. That time feels precious to me. But lately, I've found myself increasingly frustrated, and I'm not sure how to bring it up without sounding jealous or petty.

The issue is his 30-year-old son, who calls or texts him constantly, even when we're on vacation. It's not about emergencies -- just frequent check-ins or casual conversations that end up interrupting our time together. I understand and respect the bond between a father and son, but I can't help feeling like a third wheel when we're supposed to be enjoying quality time as a couple.

I don't want to compete for attention, and I certainly don't want to damage their relationship. I just wish my partner could create some boundaries during our time together so we can stay focused on each other.

How can I bring this up in a way that's honest but kind, and without sounding like I'm being unreasonable? -- Feeling Overlooked

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DEAR ABBY: I see a psychiatrist and psychologist for generalized anxiety disorder, major depression disorder and borderline personality disorder. According to my doctors, my psychiatric disorders are a result of the 44 years of abuse I received from my mother, as well as the abuse she allowed others to inflict on me.

Her physical abuse stopped when I fought back at 17. When I was 18, it was the last time her precious prince of a son raised his fist to me because I told him I'd press charges and have him arrested. The sexual abuse had stopped when I was 12, and I realized she'd known what had been happening the whole time. It also ended my wanting a relationship with my mother, but her emotional abuse continued until she died in 2013.

I am being told that, because she's dead, I should just let it go. My siblings backed her because they wanted to be in Mommy's good graces. After years of hatred and abuse, I believed the only family I had were my own two children, but even they are cold to me now. They scold me -- "Your mother's dead. Get over it." How do I explain that when abuse starts before a child can walk, you DON'T just "get over it"? -- BLEEDING HEART IN OHIO

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Hello! A Discord server I’m in is also doing a Guardian readalong, and I rounded up the chapter correspondences from here to help the CN text readers. I thought having it all in one place might be able to help other people, too:

7s = Seven Seas translation
jj = JJWXC version (which one? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)

Seven Seas Volume 1
7s prologue-2, jj 1-3
7s 3-4, jj 4-9.
7s 5-6, jj 10-11
7s 7-8, jj 12-14
7s 9-10, jj 15-17上
7s 11-12, jj 17下-20
7s 13-14, jj 21-22
7s 15-16, jj 24-25
7s 17-18, jj 26-28
7s 19-20, jj 29-31
7s 21-22, jj 32-36
7s 23-24, jj 37-39
7s 25-26, jj 40-42上
7s 27-28, jj 42下-45

Seven Seas Volume 2
7s 1-2, jj 46-47
7s 3-4, jj 48-50
7s 5-6, jj 51-53
7s 7-8, jj 54-56
7s 9-10, jj 57-60
7s 11-12, jj 61-63
7s 13-14, jj 65-68上
7s 15-16, jj 68下-71上
7s 17-18, jj 71下-75
7s 19-20, jj 76-78

Seven Seas Volume 3
7s 1-2, jj 79-80
7s 3-4, jj 81-82
7s 5-6, jj 83-84
7s 7-8, jj 85-86
… tbc.

Thank you to cathyw for the first few, and all the post hosts for the rest!

nuh_s posting in

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Fandom: King Falls AM (Podcast)
Pairings/Characters: Lily Wright & Pippa James, Jack Wright & Lily Wright
Rating: Teen and Up
Length: 8,492
Content Notes: Alcoholism, Missing Persons, Grief/Mourning
Creator Links: ryyves' Ao3
Theme: Female Relationships, Character Study, Angst

Summary:

Spoilers for King Falls AM episode 68, set before the first King Falls Chronicles (ep 56-57).

It’s far from the last email Lily gets about King Falls. Sometimes the name is hidden in postscripts, sometimes bright as highways at midnight, and every time it catches in Lily’s heart like a frightened canary, yellow and waning.

Lily doesn’t delete them, not one. She files them away in a quiet folder of her work email, so she doesn’t have to see them in her inbox. There are things that can be said with distance, and this is one of them: that if she deleted every mention of King Falls, she would delete every rope thrown to Jack. Every hope, or something that runs even deeper.

Some fear, perhaps, that she is not where she is supposed to be.

Or: Pippa puts up with way more of Lily's shit than she should have to.

Reccer's Notes: This is such a wonderful character study that explores Lily's character and gives her and Pippa's friendship a spotlight. The writing style is beautiful as well.

Fanwork Links: the gallery of our bones

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conuly in agonyaunt - One column, two letters
conuly in agonyaunt - I don't know why this was sent to Pay Dirt, but Pay Dirt gave excellent advice the LW will not heed
case in fandomsecrets - [ SECRET POST #6728 ]
case in fandomsecrets - [ SECRET SUBMISSIONS POST #964 ]
facethestrange in sid_guardian - Guardian Readalong: Vol. 3, Chapters 9 & 10
mific in fancake - Taskmaster: Team of Sue by thingswithwings
case in fandomsecrets - [ SECRET POST #6727 ]
kalira in smallfandomfest - Fanfic, Burn Notice, Michael/Sam/Fiona, ireland
laurapalmer in dw_community_promo - Seasons of Fandom- Now Open To New Members!
timemidae in little_details - Catholic school 1940's Quebec
case in fandomsecrets - [ SECRET POST #6726 ]
bluerosekatie in smallfandomfest - Fanfic, ENA - Joel G, ENA & White and Red ENA, Generation Loss
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minoanmiss in agonyaunt - Ask a Manager: My Boss's Parenting Choices Are Driving Me Nuts
china_shop in sid_guardian - Poll: Shen Wei's composure (drama)
case in fandomsecrets - [ SECRET POST #6725 ]
conuly in agonyaunt - I get the feeling that these people make their own problems....
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circumference_pie in sid_guardian - Aggregated Seven Seas-JJWXC chapter correspondences
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Guardian Readalong: Vol. 3, Chapters 9 & 10

Taskmaster: Team of Sue by thingswithwings

[ SECRET POST #6727 ]

Fanfic, Burn Notice, Michael/Sam/Fiona, ireland

Seasons of Fandom- Now Open To New Members!

Catholic school 1940's Quebec

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Fanfic, ENA - Joel G, ENA & White and Red ENA, Generation Loss

Ask a Manager: Job Candidate Got into A Fight With My Wife

Ask a Manager: My Boss's Parenting Choices Are Driving Me Nuts

Poll: Shen Wei's composure (drama)

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I get the feeling that these people make their own problems....

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Aggregated Seven Seas-JJWXC chapter correspondences

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